Further disadvantages of being a 'mature teenager'.

....are directly related to the reality that there are few around, especially of the outgoing, direct type. Unfortunately, 'maturity' for the most part is equated with compliance and being very quiet, by most at least. Now, what does this lead to?

Well, one should note that although someone may be considerably more 'mature' than the average person his or her age, their body is still going to retain its physical characteristics. This often means high sex drive, and a lot of energy to use it. In a world where 'maturity' and 'intelligence' are largely valued only if they are expressed in a very tightly controlled and nearly-silent setting, the latter takes a big hit. And most who have at least some degree of emotional maturity will not fuck every attractive woman or man (depending on sexual preference) that happens to pass by. Of course, those who are more mature can exercise more control, but this in turn can often make things very uncomfortable if stuck partner less for long periods of time, which is often the case.

Simply imagine having the mind of an older, middle aged person, but the energy of a younger person, and a very high sex drive. This produces tension in the form of mostly unwanted sexual attractions, which can become quite intense much of the time. I suppose this could even be referred to as some type of mental civil war, with a clear winning side that is still bearing much more stress than it would be without a 'rebellion'.

I'll be the first to admit that there are a great number of intelligent, 'mature' people who could not get laid if their lives depended on it, even if it is a stereotype. However, the core of the problem lies in when the stereotype is the only accepted form of something. Maybe it's the result of pigeonholing in society and upbringing, but for whatever reason(s), many lack social skills and the confidence to really approach anyone successfully. But for those who can, perhaps this is even worse. The opposite sex is much closer, so the temptation is much more magnified, as is the counter reaction. Small talk becomes easy with practice but also is held in contempt to some who have moved beyond this vapid phase. I'd also say that this proximity and 'fight' can also breed a lot more contempt for 'stupidity' with the stress that it shoves in the faces of some individuals. They, and I, feel both repulsed and attracted at the same time, which tends to mount more and more frustration to often already high levels.

I've decided to withdraw from socialization partly because of this, but not to the level of becoming a hermit. I still keep a look out and am still open, but overall, I avoid massively social occasions (despite being of extroverted nature) in part because of this tension. It's not conquerable at some level because high libido is natural in people of this age, and can be even higher for some individuals. Still, it is of course resistible, as it should be for anyone, but this is completely irrelevant.

This tension and isolation also in part decreases motivation and willpower, which affects a lot of areas, including writing, communicating, and much more.

I hope to write a bit more about this issue in the future, and would like to hear the stories of others who may have experienced similar issues to my own.